A woman who was looking forward to getting married to her partner has opened up about her shock when she found out he was already taken.

As the devastated lady revealed in her Mumsnet post, she and her partner booked their wedding back in January and everyone was very “happy” and “excited” about the news.

The wedding planning, in which the couple had already invested $40,000, then took a U-turn when the couple’s kids informed their birth mom – the man’s ex – about the wedding-to-be only for her to reveal that they are actually still married.

“He and I booked our wedding in Jan. Everyone very happy and excited. Kids told their mum (who is lovely) and she pointed out that when they had separated 12 years ago they had never actually got divorced. He says he can’t actually remember this but yes, it turns out they are still married,” the woman wrote.

“He started divorce proceedings back in Jan, but it’s now looking increasingly likely that it won’t be completed for our wedding in July. We have to give notice to get married in June.

“I have been hassling him to call the company he’s using to manage it all last week and finally does so yesterday – he tells them that I am on his case about it, and then as it becomes apparent on the phone that we are unlikely to be able to get married in July, says he is about to waste £30k.”

The disappointed lady added: “I’m gutted – our invites went out this week, his comment about me being on his case (why isn’t he eager to get it sorted himself!) about how there was no mention of how much he wants to marry me – just that he will lose £30k.

“He didn’t come to bed last night, and this morning I’ve not been able to stop crying which he is angry about. He’s invited his pregnant daughter and ex wife around this morning and I said please don’t as I don’t want to see anyone – to which He replied well it’s my house too.”

Asking the internet for advice on how to deal with her situation, the woman revealed she was left “trapped” in her room with her partner talking to his ex in the living room below.

“I don’t know what to do or how to feel. I know we are lucky, but the £30k on the wedding isn’t much compared to income, so whilst it is a waste – he normally wouldn’t even bat an eyelid at it. His bloody wife is sat downstairs ffs,” she concluded.

After asking the internet for advice, baffled viewers quickly suggested she didn’t do anything wrong and that her partner is bad news.

“You poor thing. He does not sound kind and loving. He also sounds as if he doesn’t want to marry you. I can imagine that is very painful for you but I would not think someone who would speak of you so rudely is someone to be marrying,” someone suggested.

“I would definitely be cancelling! And walking away from the relationship to be honest. How can someone forget they didn’t get divorced? That’s not something you tend to forget. Not only that but he has completely disregarded your thoughts and feelings as well in a number of ways,” another said.

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