An upset bride asked Reddit for help after her stepsister asked her to downsize her wedding in order not to outshine her own wedding.
As the anonymous woman revealed in her post on the social media platform, her stepsister made a “disturbing” request and even went as far as asking her to fund her wedding.
“My stepsister immediately started talking about how she was being forced to have a small wedding (30-60 people) because her fiancé didn’t have the money to fund the type of wedding she wanted (she’s always been vocal about wanting a lavish wedding),” the bride wrote.
“Some of the things she was saying were pretty snarky, but I chose to stay quiet because it isn’t really my business. My mum pointed out how she (and stepdad) had a small wedding and that it wasn’t about how many people were there but that everyone you invited made the day more special.
“My stepsister made a sarcastic comment about how that was their second wedding and she wasn’t planning to have a do-over, so it had to be perfect.”
After the debate turned toward the bride’s wedding preparation, the conversation took a turn for the worse.
“My mum, who was obviously hurt by her comment, changed the topic by asking me to show her the Pinterest board I’d made for the wedding. There aren’t that many pictures on it yet, but it includes a few photos of what I hope to be our wedding venue,” the bride added.
“My stepsister immediately asked why we needed such a big venue, how it was going to be so expensive and how we probably didn’t have enough family/friends to even fill it up (it’s not even THAT big of a venue, we’re planning to have 50-150 guests).
“I tried to be vague and said I just liked the picture, but my stepsister kept probing me about how much it would cost to rent it. I eventually told her, which then led to her asking how much our budget was. I could see this was going to turn into a fight/her sulking so I refused to answer and told her I wasn’t sure yet.”
Determined to get the answer, the stepsister then spoke to the bride’s sister who knew the budget as well. Not knowing that the stepsister was in for a big drama, the sister revealed the bride’s budget, prompting the stepsister to call for the bride’s wedding to be downsized so that it wouldn’t outshine her own wedding.
“My stepsister has now been complaining to our parents that it wasn’t fair that I had so much money when she and her fiancé didn’t even have half of it and that I had to downsize my wedding, otherwise I’d embarrass them,” the bride added on Reddit.
“She’s also demanding that either I downsize, or we share the wedding with her and her fiancé getting married in the morning and us in the evening. I can’t do this because my fiancé/his family are going to fund most of the wedding and whilst we have a budget of X, I’m hoping we don’t spend even close to it.”
To make matters worse, the stepsister even went as far as asking the bride to give her money so that she could afford a big wedding as well.
“She and her fiancé have been sending me texts daily demanding I give them the money. Even my stepdad has suggested/demanded I give her the money as it’s not fair and has been really cold towards me whenever I visit since,” the bride added.
After her post went viral, the woman received tons of support on Reddit where people urged her to stay away from her stepsister and avoid giving her any money.
“The entitlement here is disturbing and disgusting.point 291 |
It’s not as if your mother and stepfather are paying for your wedding and refusing to give her as much money.point 91 | If that was the case she’d have reason to complain but it’s incredibly petty, rude and childish to expect you to either give her money, downsize or share your day because she’s unwilling to tailor her wedding to her budget,” one person wrote.point 299 | 1
“Someone needs to tell the step sister that life isn’t fair and someone will always have more than you. Be happy for what you have because there is also always someone with less than you,” another one added.
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