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‘My Family Banned Me From Celebrating My Birthday Because My Mother Passed Away Giving Birth To Me. What Should I Do?’


A devastated young lady has spoken out and asked for advice after her own family banned her from celebrating her 18th birthday.

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As the anonymous girl revealed in her viral Reddit post, her mother died giving birth to her and her family has blamed her for the death ever since.

The teen says her birthday is always overshadowed by the death of her mother, whereas her father and the rest of her family never allowed her to have fun on the occasion despite her older brothers always throwing big parties to celebrate their own birthdays.

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To make her situation even worse, the girl was banned from grieving for her mother and visiting her grave.

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“My birthday was not allowed to be celebrated or talked about under any circumstances and I never got anything for them,” the teenager explained.

“When I got older and understood that most people had a mum and I didn’t it upset me a lot, every time I cried about missing her my dad would tell me that I had never met her and that I didn’t deserve to miss her.”

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Believing that she was in the wrong for not wanting to be miserable for the rest of her life, the girl added:

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“Now this is where I am probably the a******. This year, I turned 18 and decided that I would have a birthday party for myself which was just some drinks with friends and going to see a movie.

“I posted about this on social media and was instantly flooded with messages from my family telling me that I shouldn’t celebrate my birthday and that all my family was at my mum’s grave and that I should’ve been there (this is something I’ve been told repeatedly I’m not allowed to visit).”

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After asking fellow Redditors for advice, the 18-year-old quickly received lots of support from people who suggested she should distance herself from her toxic family as soon as possible.

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“You are being unfairly punished because something tragic happened that was completely out of your control,” someone wrote.

“I’m sure your mother would have loved celebrating your birthday and would not have wanted a life where you were not allowed to celebrate being alive.”

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“You can celebrate your birthday and I’m sure your mum would be wanting you to. You should also be allowed to miss her and visit her grave,” another added.

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