Some couples allow their guests to wear whatever they want for their wedding while others opt for dress codes, traditional clothes, and other attire.
But one furious bride-to-be has revealed that she didn’t let her dad walk her down the aisle as he broke her strict dress code.
The woman took to Reddit and said that she felt hurt and disrespected.
“My parents divorced when I was five, and my father remarried and started a new family pretty abruptly,” she wrote.
“Over the last 30 years, my father and I have had a rocky relationship at best, but now that I’m in my 30s, our relationship has gotten somewhat better,” the bride continued.
“My fiance and I got engaged last Christmas, and as soon as we announced it, my dad took him aside and told him it was ‘tradition ask the father’s hand in marriage before getting engaged’. My fiance responded, ‘Yeah, well, I think we can agree that your relationship with your daughter is not all that traditional.’
“Aside from that, all has gone pretty well over the last year while we have been wedding planning.”
“My dad offered to help pay a generous portion of the expenses, and I asked him to do me the honour of walking me down the aisle.
“To be completely honest, that never really felt totally right for me to begin with because being given away is so outdated and just doesn’t sit right with me, but I thought it would be important to him.
“My fiance and I are totally non-religious but we asked him to say a prayer at our non-religious ceremony because he is very religious, and told us it was important to him for God to bless our marriage.”
Everything seemed to be going well until she learned that her dad was thinking of wearing jeans to her big day even though she made it clear that there would be ‘no jeans.’
“A couple of weeks ago, I was on the phone with him and he was insisting that he would wear jeans to my ceremony,” she wrote. “My wedding is a smaller, upscale destination wedding, and we explicitly wrote no jeans on our wedding invites.
“After going back and forth with him – him insisting he would wear jeans, and me holding my ground and sticking to my guns with my dress code – I finally told him, ‘Fine, if you want to wear jeans, you can sit in the audience.’”
Her dad said that she ‘disrespected’ him but the bride insisted that he was ‘crossing her boundaries.’
“After that comment, I didn’t hear from him for a few days – he then messaged to let me know he was avoiding me because I ‘disrespected’ him while my half brothers and stepmum were within earshot and that I owe him an apology,” she continued.
“Personally, I feel pretty hurt and disrespected myself. The least this man can do for me is wearing a suit to my wedding. In my eyes, telling him he would not walk me down the aisle was a reasonable response to him crossing my boundaries and my dress code for my wedding, and I do not believe I owe him an apology.”
People on Reddit were quick to share their opinions, with one person writing: “You’re letting him participate despite your rocky relationship. The least he can do is follow your dress requirements.”
Another wrote: “He’s a grown man, he can wear some dressier pants to walk you down the aisle!”
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