A frustrated wife has revealed that her husband demanded a day off from child care because he earns more money than her even though they both work full time.
The woman took to Mumsnet and wrote: “I’m not a stay at home mum and never could be, hats off to those wonder women – I can’t hack it and we also can’t afford it.”
“My husband feels that because he pays the mortgage, bills and most of the food shopping that he is entitled to do less childcare and have days off to himself, whereas I take our son out to play dates or just generally stay out of the house, so he can do his own thing.”
She continued: “I contribute financially to my son, all his classes, pay his nursery fees and so on.
“All my salary goes on our son, yet he’s the one who needs more ‘him time’ because he pays out more.”
But whenever she asks her husband to take care of their child so she can do something for herself, he immediately complains and makes a big deal out of it.
“I’d like another child and he would deep down, but he’s refusing right now because he knows he’ll be ‘stuck’ with even more childcare as I care for a newborn,” she continued.
“I work four long days a week and have my son at all other times. I’m either working or looking after my son. I don’t get time to myself. My husband has my son half a day a week, which I’m grateful for as I’m aware many dads don’t do this, and is generally around with us at the weekend.”
Many people were quick to share their opinions on the matter, with one person writing: “I know that you’re looking for some kind of magic bullet that will make him see that he’s treating you badly or allow you to accept it without feeling hurt and uncared for. I’m sorry but there isn’t one. He’s an old school misogynist.”
Another wrote: “Nothing is going to change his deeply-held world view that you deserve less than him because you are a woman. Not unless he chooses to change. Even then it would take counselling or deep reflection. You can’t make him treat you as an equal and the resentment will eat you up. Don’t have another baby with him.”
A third said: “Your poor son having such a s*** dad. Of course treating you like his staff and opting out of parenting his own child is not acceptable.”
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