A bride-to-be has shared how their wedding is causing a rift between them and her in-laws, who wanted to change the date of the ceremony.
The woman took to Mumsnet and shared that her sister-in-law was now displeased with the date even though they already knew about it for months.
“Everyone seemed fine with this [date], so we went ahead and started making arrangements for our chosen date,” she wrote.
“Our date is ideal because it’s a week before school holidays, so we can take our honeymoon during the school holiday week, and we have two young kids who would otherwise need to be at school during this time, so it all works in perfectly.
“A few days back, I messaged the family group chat to excitedly talk about how much progress has been made for our chosen date.”
However, her sister-in-law replied with an aggressive message, telling them that her children’s school holidays have changed and that the wedding date is no longer ‘convenient.’
“Her attitude was that we should change it. She made a big thing of how they’d probably not manage to get over for that weekend because they’d have to ask for a day off school,” she continued.
“My fiancé was really upset by her message. He hasn’t messaged her at all, since. After a night of processing what she’d said, I found a polite way of saying that it’d be nice if their family could make it over, but we understood if they couldn’t, and we could always Zoom video call the wedding.”
The couple refuses to change their wedding date as they have already everything prepared but also worries that a rift is starting to form.
One person commented: “I’m sure you won’t be able to change the date whether your fiancé’s sister wants to or not, since you will have paid deposits for your bookings, won’t you? She is being very unreasonable because your dates have been known for a while.”
Another wrote: “Your SIL is making it all about her. It’s not. It’s your day and she knows this. If she can’t make it that’s her choice but if you’ve already sent out Save The Dates then other guests will have booked time off and made travel/hotel arrangements.”
A third said: “If your SIL can’t go then she can’t go maybe it’s better she doesn’t! She’s being difficult.”
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