A man who has a four-year-old daughter has opened up about his difficulties as a father.
The 31-year-old took to Reddit and said that he can’t stand to be around his child.
“Unplanned child. Supportive families. Financially stable. Homeowners. Healthy relationship. Since had a vasectomy,” he wrote.
The man said that from the day his daughter was born, he knew right away that parenting was not for him.
“She is horrible to the both of us for no reason. Genuinely horrible,” he wrote.
“I can tell my partner doesn’t like being a parent either, she hasn’t directly said that but I know. I’ve told her I hate it, everything about it. Less freedom, less money, less social time with others and as a couple.”
The father admitted that the stress of being a parent is “relentless,” adding that sometimes he “cannot stand” being around his 4-year-old daughter due to her “constant moaning, whining, needing, crying, and sass.”
He insists that he and his wife are “good parents” who would purposely upset their daughter or take her childhood away but he’s finding it hard to be there for their child.
“If it was my choice I’d never see her again,” he said.
“Harsh I know, possibly unforgivable. I would never leave or put her into care, I know how unfair that is, she isn’t doing this on purpose, she doesn’t know the pain she causes.”
His post continued: “I hate being a parent. I’d do anything to have my old life back, the one where we had freedom, was happy and enjoyed waking up each morning and always looking forward to the next day.”
People on Reddit were quick to share their thoughts on the matter, with many telling him to seek help.
“100% parenting is hard, and yes it sucks sometimes, even for those of us who love it, it still sucks and is hard. Therapy will help with dealing with the stress of doing something you dislike day in and day out. Therapy isn’t ‘I’ve got something seriously wrong with me, please fix it’, it’s more ‘hey I’m feeling this, you got any tips on how I can make things not feel like this?” one person commented.
“I grew up with a mother who didn’t like me and I felt it. I tried most of my life to get her approval, and nothing worked. It wasn’t until the last few years, in my twenties, that I stopped trying and had grown a lot emotionally. Kids can tell when you don’t like them, even if you’re trying to hide it and still trying to show them ‘love’, they can sense something is off and will react as a child will,” another said.
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