An outraged dad has been slammed online after revealing he demanded a paternity test because his children weren’t born white enough.
The 29-year-old man, who is white, took to Reddit to explain that he didn’t believe his son was actually his after seeing him in person when his wife, who is black, gave birth.
According to the young man, he instantly had doubts about his partner’s fidelity thinking his son was “noticeably darker” than he should be and insisting he didn’t look half-white.
“I’m a 29 year old white guy. My wife is 30 and black. We have two kids, a 3 year old girl and a 5 year old boy. My wife got pregnant with our son early in our relationship. We had only been together a year. We got married because she got pregnant. Fortunately for us, we are actually happy,” the man wrote in his viral post.
“When my son was born I accepted him as mine. However, I couldn’t help noticing how little he looked like me. He is noticeably darker than my wife. He doesn’t look half white. My family and friends have asked if I’m sure he’s mine. I had doubts, but I initially decided to trust my wife. I loved my son regardless.
“When our son was 2, my wife had our daughter. I had no doubt she’s mine. She looks just like me, she even has my blue eyes. I never realized how powerful it is to know a child is yours. I bonded with her easier because there wasn’t the question of paternity dangling over our heads. My family bonded with her faster too. Her resemblance to me convinced me that my son is not mine.”
The distraught husband went on to admit that he began to “resent” his son and feel as if he was taking care of someone else’s child.
He also insisted he felt resentment towards his wife thinking she cheated on him and secretly conceived a child with another man.
Unable to deal with the uncertainty any longer, the man secretly did a paternity test only to realize that his son indeed was his.
“Genetics are weird. Anyways, that was 4 months ago and my relationship with my wife and son improved dramatically. I feel much closer to him now that I know he’s mine. My wife and I have been so happy that we were talking about a third child,” he added.
“I confessed to my wife I got a paternity test. I hated keeping the secret and I thought she would understand given how much he doesn’t look like me. She flipped out. She asked me if I ever doubted our daughter, and when I said no she called me racist. It’s not true. I didn’t prefer my daughter because of her whiter features, I just knew she was mine.”
The husband continued: “She also said that I made our son feel unloved for no reason for all those years. I said that’s bull. Even when I didn’t believe my son was mine, I treated him as though he were. My wife says she wants to move out and take our children.
“I hoped she would’ve calmed down by now but things haven’t changed. She’s just so furious with me for not trusting her and for in her eyes, denying my son because he’s dark. She barely talks to me unless it’s about the kids. I don’t want to lose my family.”
After asking Reddit for advice, the man was quickly slammed by the online community and accused of being paranoid and not trusting his wife.
“You not only did not trust your wife, you let your ignorance get in the way of you bonding with your child. I mean, what did you think was going to happen when you had biracial children? It’s not always a perfect mocha mixture of both parents,” someone wrote.
“You should try to repair the damage you did. Admit your faults and you might have a chance of keeping your family together,” another said.
A third suggested: “If you had doubts to the point where your relationship with your child is being affected, why did you wait 2 years to do so? Instead, for 2 years you let skin color become a barrier between you and your son. Not only that, but it also made you doubt your wife.”
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