A 25-year-old woman has sparked a lengthy debate after she refused to take on her terminally ill sister’s kids when she dies.
The unnamed woman explained that her 31-year-old sister, who has three young children, had been diagnosed with an untreatable brain tumor.
Her sister has begged her to take care of her kids when she passes as the father wanted nothing to do with them.
The woman took to Reddit and wrote: “Her ex-husband wants nothing to do with the kids since she had cheated on him for years with many men and they aren’t his.”
But she said that she didn’t want to take on the kids as she and her husband already agreed not to have children when they tied the knot.
“It would be unfair to ask my husband to make this kind of sacrifice. We both agreed to no kids when we got married – to change something like that generally means a divorce,” she continued.
The woman also said that she and her husband are atheist, and her sister wants her kids to be raised in church.
“A six year age gap meant we didn’t really grow up together, and the memories I do have she was always awful to me, like cynical. After she moved out at 18 we haven’t talked once besides at my parents funeral. I don’t even know her, let alone her kids,” she continued.
“She cried and called me awful but it’s my life, and ultimately I get to be selfish with it.
“A child isn’t an 18 year commitment; it’s lifelong, and one I have decided not to take. She cheated with multiple different men and lost her husband – I don’t think it’s my job to swoop in and save her from consequences of her own actions. I don’t feel like I owe her anything.”
Many people were quick to share their thoughts, with one person writing: “If you don’t know these children at all, I don’t see why your sister would want you to be their guardian.point 259 |
How could they possibly be comfortable with you after the loss of their mother? These so-called friends of hers would be better suited if they have an established relationship with the children.point 163 | ”point 166 | 1
Another said: “You aren’t obligated to take on parenting children for any reason – the rest of the vitriol in this post was pretty unnecessary. That said, regardless of how you feel about your sister, she is a dying mother who is trying to deal with all that that entails and also making sure her children will be cared for.”
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