A mother has left people divided after she revealed that she did not want to take her stepdaughter on a family holiday even though she knew that it would leave the young girl upset.
Taking to Mumsnet for advice, the mom explained that she and her husband just welcomed their baby boy and she wanted to go on a vacation without his 8-year-old daughter.
“I’m only going to have one maternity year, my baby is only going to be free (in terms of cost) to take on holiday for so long. We can’t afford to take the daughter away as well,” she wrote.
The mother explained that they would be using her money and she couldn’t afford to pay for her husband’s daughter.
“It’s my money, I want a stress free holiday and entertaining an 8 year old who is bored all the time is not my idea of stress free,” she went on.
She also explained that she grew up with stepdads who had children and they did not come on holidays with us so it was normal for her.
“Plus what if we can’t afford to take both on holiday in the future? Does that mean my child then can’t have a holiday in case of upsetting the other child? Even though the other child has a well-off mother so will be holidaying plenty,” she went on.
The woman also revealed that her husband agreed at that time but “now he’s constantly mentioning his daughter in our holiday discussions, has told his daughter that we’re trying to plan a summer holiday all together so now she is excited.”
Fellow parents couldn’t agree as to what the mother should do.
One person commented: “I would suggest that if he wants her to come that he pays for her to come and pays the additional for having to go in school holidays.”
Another wrote: “I am sorry but I don’t agree with you. I understand why you want to go away just the 3 of you, but the child’s feelings must take priority.”
A third said: “If you want your step daughter to feel pushed out, go ahead. Your husband has two children, not one.”
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