A mother has revealed that she no longer trusts her mother-in-law after she heard what she was telling her 10-month-old daughter.
The 31-year-old mother explained that she was getting along with her mother-in-law until she started bugging them about getting their daughter’s ears pierced.
She told her mother-in-law that her baby wouldn’t be getting her ears pierced until she’s old enough to ask for it but her MIL called her a ‘hypocrite.’
The mother took to Reddit and wrote: “My own mother wouldn’t let me even get my earlobes pierced until I was 10, but my mother-in-law had both had both my sister-in-laws’ ears pierced when they were tiny, and she keeps going on about how ‘it’s better because they won’t remember it.’
“J (her husband) says he supports whatever decision I make on the matter because I’m the one who would have to clean it, as I stay home with C (her daughter) while he works full time.”
She thought that the issue had disappeared until she heard her mother-in-law talking to C a few weeks ago.
“As I was coming down the stairs I hear my mother-in-law talking to C about how ‘they’re going to go out shopping and get her some pretty earrings.’
“I went into the room and told her in no uncertain terms that that would not be happening, and if I can’t trust her to respect my decisions about my own daughter I would find someone else to look after her,” she said, adding that she was forced to ask her sister to babysit her daughter.
“Now my mother-in-law keeps trying to arrange to have her for a few hours, she even tried to offer to have her overnight so J and I can go out, but I refused. I told her she could come and visit her, but I no longer trusted her not to get her ears pierced behind my back, so she would be seeing her unsupervised.”
The mother said that her husband and sister-in-law think that she’s overreacting, so she is now asking others if her action was justified.
One Reddit user commented: “Of course her children think you’re overreacting; they were raised by this human bulldozer and don’t know any better. Their opinions on boundaries can’t be trusted.
“Also, the idea that your husband defers to you because you would be solely responsible for the care and cleaning just because you stay home? Like… is he incapable of holding a Q-tip between the hours of 6 and 8pm? She is his daughter, too, and he absolutely has a vested interest in whether his mother goes behind both of your backs to do this.”
Another wrote: “She definitely intends to get her ears pierced.point 162 | I’m of the opinion that it’s unfair to put a baby through unnecessary pain, as they can’t understand it.point 266 |
Vaccines serve a purpose and are justified, but earrings don’t.point 60 | Your daughter will grow up just fine without them and can ask for them when she’s ready.point 138 | ”point 141 | 1
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