A husband has shared how her wife was left fuming after she discovered that he donated sperm without informing her.
The man took to Reddit and said that he didn’t see it as a ‘big deal’ at that time. He even forgot about it until a conversation with their friends prompted him to talk about it.
“I didn’t really tell her because I didn’t see it as a big deal and it wasn’t a lot of money. I got about £114 ($150) to tide us over for the week and we went on about our business. I forgot about it,” he said.
But last week, they were talking with their friends who were experiencing some fertility problems, and their topic prompted him to talk about his previous donation.
“My wife was more shocked than I expected her to be. She looked visibly shaken but moved on quickly,” he wrote.
“When we got home she brought it up again and I explained the story and how I forgot about it over time and didn’t see it as a big deal. She got quite upset, saying I might have potential children that I don’t know about.”
He continued: “I don’t have children I don’t know about because the only children I have are those I’ve had with her, but she is insisting this is some form of betrayal.”
The husband now feels guilty about the situation and asks people on Reddit whether he should’ve told his wife about the donation at that time.
One Reddit user commented: “At best you were inconsiderate, at worst you violated her trust… what else are you doing that she considers a big deal, that you aren’t sharing? I guarantee that she’s been rolling that thought around her head since.”
Another wrote: “As someone who conceived my children with donor sperm I do still feel you should have disclosed it. They aren’t your children but a lot of these kids grow up with a curiosity about where they came from.”
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