Most grandparents are very excited to see their grandkids and the news of having a new member of the family just brings them to tears.
But one woman who found out that her 17-year-old daughter was pregnant had a different reaction to the news.
Taking to Reddit, the woman explained that she had recently retired and after raising her own children, she didn’t want to spend her retirement years doing the same thing again.
The grandmother told her daughter that she had to find another place to live as she didn’t want to be a babysitter.
“My 17 yo daughter (youngest and we had her late) is 7 weeks pregnant (she will be 18 by the time she gives birth). She is not in a relationship with the father. He reeaallyyy, I can’t stress this enough, does not want a baby,” she wrote.
Her daughter decided to continue with the pregnancy so she asked the teen how she was going to manage that.
“Her: I’ll get a job. Me: who’s going to watch baby while you’re at work? Her: I thought you and dad could. Me: absolutely not, I’m not raising another baby,” the mother wrote.
“Pretty much a back and forth for a bit that lead me to believe that if she has this baby in this house, I’m practically going to be its mother. I’m very recently retired and my husband is retiring in exactly 11 months and this is not how I want to spend my retirement years,” she went on.
The woman made it clear that she didn’t want to raise another baby and told her daughter that she had to live in another place.
People on Reddit were quick to react to the family dilemma, with one person writing: “I have seen my friend go down this road and she is practically raising her grandson and supporting the parents. It is draining her, emotionally and financially.”
Another wrote: “What she’s asking for is infeasible.point 155 | She’s going to get a job while pregnant.point 190 | Okay, how much time off will she get for the birth? Who will take care of the baby when she’s at work (the answer in her mind is you)? If she can’t find a babysitter, how long will she keep that job? She apparently doesn’t ‘want’ to be a stay at home mom, or ‘want’ to go to college, and she ‘wants’ to keep the baby and be a single mom.point 475 | 1
A third said: “You have a right to enjoy your home and retirement, you worked for it. It’s unfair of your daughter to assume you’re just going to take over all these parenting duties for her. I think you have her plenty of time to make arrangements, it’s tough love but sometimes that’s what is needed.”
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