Fatphobic is a word made up by fat people when people wanted them to lose weight due to their unhealthy lifestyle.
Mary Fran Donnelly, 27, who works as a Social studies teacher and also a body positivity advocate, frequently shares posts encouraging self-love on her TikTok channel where she has 332,000 followers.
In January of this year, Donnelly began posting body-positive content and received support and encouragement from other TikTokers. Over time, her videos began tackling how traveling and its accommodations are not kind to those who are fat.
Recently Mary started a video series in her TikTok Account @itsmaryfran titled “Traveling as a Fat Person” where she revealed how the hotel she stayed in during a family vacation was not meant for plus-size guests.
Mary can be seen laughing through the entire video which has been viewed 1.5 million times as she and her sister were shocked by the layout of their hotel’s bathroom.
The social studies teacher instantly began cracking jokes and pointing out all the room’s design flaws, while her sister whipped out a camera and laughed along.
“Are hotels fatphobic?” Mary says in the video. “As one might see it (the bathroom) looks normal, would you like to take a pee or a poop? Don’t worry you’ll barely fit.”
Moving from the toilet to the shower, Mary Fran also showed her reality of simply trying to use the hotel’s towel to dry off. However, as she demonstrates she said that “it won’t fit.”
In a second video, which has earned over 5.1 million views, Mary can be seen in a rainbow swimsuit.
Mary points out that pool towels aren’t much better when it comes to hotels.
“Welcome back to traveling as a fat person with your resident fata**, me, the theme of this episode is amenities,” she said.
“Let’s talk about pool towels, cause as we know towels in hotels suck,” she continued. “So I went and got me a pool towel, it’s a little bigger but not much.”
“So we get to choose are we gonna cover the front or the back?” Mary said. “Let’s cover the tush shall we.”
Mary demonstrates as once again her entire front is left exposed by the small pool towel.
“Now after a swim maybe you want to go sit on the balcony,” she says as she steps out onto the veranda. “Oh look a lovely table with chairs, will it house me? I’m not too sure.”
Smirking as she sits, Mary jokes: “Comfortable and stable.”
Mary’s incredible sense of humor and bubbly personality made the tour video go viral with millions of views. However, as fun as it may look, it’s not always easy to cope with such uncomfortable situations, Mary said in an interview with Buzzfeed.
“I cope through humor, I was making light of a situation that is a very real stress for fat, plus-size people,” Mary Fran told BuzzFeed. “My sister and I could only laugh at how absurd it was.”
She admitted that the obstacles she faces while traveling can sometimes impact her decision to do so.
“I donʻt travel alone because I worry about strangers being upset about sitting next to me on a plane. [I also wonder,] will the seat be uncomfortable? Will the seat belt fit? Will the towel fit at the hotel? Will the chairs at the pool hold me? Will the tables at the hotel restaurant be comfortable?”
“People [are] commenting about [how] these little things, like hotel towels, lounge chairs, and toilet placement, aren’t an isolated worry for one person; there is a whole community of people that feels the same way. And those people [are] giving thousands of recommendations on how to alleviate some of that stress.”
Her clips have clearly resonated with many, racking up millions of likes, comments, and shares in the days since she posted them. They’re also sparking long-overdue conversations about the dignity and accessibility every person deserves to feel when they leave their home.
“I don’t think [the challenges I pointed out] cross the minds of most, but I think that it’s time that [they] do,” Mary said.
“Body shapes and image have become so relevant in recent years that there isn’t any excuse as to why hotel and travel industries cannot begin to reevaluate their practices,” she said. “Fat, plus-size people deserve to be seen as valid human beings in an industry that should cater to everyone’s size and physical needs.”