A stressed-out father has opened up about his inevitable divorce and blamed his own son for his split with his wife.
While divorce is always hard for children to deal with, one dad sparked a debate after blaming his 12-year-old son for the rift between him and his wife.
As the dad insisted, he and his “inseparable” partner were doing fine until their son started disobeying them and causing them to have major disagreements about their parenting methods.
“My wife and I have been together when we first met in high school. We were able to maintain a long-distance relationship throughout college and stayed true to each other. I truly thought we were inseparable. She gave birth to a boy 12 years ago, and since then things changed drastically,” the father admitted in his Reddit post.
“My son, unfortunately, has behavioral problems and it’s been very difficult raising him. He throws temper tantrums, gets in trouble in school frequently, refuses to listen to my wife and I.
“As a result, my wife and I started having disagreements about how we should handle him (i.e whether to punish more, let him get his anger out, etc). This created a wedge between us that kept getting wider. We both resorted to drinking more and wanting to be away from each other as much as possible to get some relief.”
After one thing led to another, the couple decided to get a divorce as neither of them could put up with each other any longer.
Following the separation, the child has allegedly begun spending more time with his father. As days passed, the boy started objecting to his parents’ divorce only for the father to lash out at him during one of his fits and blame him for the separation.
“Last Friday he started asking if my wife and I forgave each other and I told him that the divorce is happening like it or not. He starts crying and I got mad and told him ‘buddy, want to know why we are getting divorced? Because of you, we were happy before you were born but you always act bad and get in trouble, so stop arguing with me when you caused it, you have nothing but yourself to blame,’” the dad added.
“This devastated him and I did apologize but I told him there was some truth to what I said.point 200 | However, since then he’s been more quiet and behaved, even my wife, who was with him over the weekend, said he was much better.point 306 |
So yes, I think I am the asshole for telling him he was the reason we are getting divorced, but in some ways I don’t think I am because maybe it was just something he needed to hear?”point 150 | 1
After asking Reddit users for an opinion, people didn’t hold back on slamming the dad and his partner for blaming their problems on their son.
“You failed as a parent by not getting him the help he needs and being able to support him as a parent. Now you’re not just breaking up his home, but you’re telling him it’s HIS fault when the fault lies with you two adults? That’s horrific,” someone wrote.
“Honestly, it sounds like you have both been shitty parents. That’s the reason he acts out. Yes, there may be some physiological components, but it is your job as parents to get him help, not deal with it by drinking, blaming him, and fighting. This whole situation is a result of your failures. Seriously, this is one of the most horrible things I’ve seen a parent post on here,” another added.
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