Being a parent is not easy, and we all know that.
But sometimes it becomes tougher when you start doubting yourself in whether you can keep it all up.
It can be disturbing when you start comparing yourself to others. Sometimes, you think why everyone is managing everything easily while you are struggling to keep your kids happy and healthy.
Australian blogger, Laura Mazza, has been writing for about 3 years now, she started her blog with The Mum on the Run after struggling with postnatal depression with her first child, Luca. She had a feeling of loneliness and she was confused too, so she decided to write to connect with other moms who might be going through a similar situation.
She wrote a post: People always say to me “I don’t know how you do it with 3. I can’t do it with 1”
And I’ll always say, the first is your hardest. I had never been more shocked, more overwhelmed and more sleep deprived ever in my life. Yes, 3 is hard. But entering motherhood for the first time is like a tornado that swirls you in and spits you out. Those days are by far the hardest.
But what I do know is this; the days of feeling like you’ve been kicked up the vagina and hungover are few.point 92 | You can hug your baby, he can sleep in your arms, you can have a routine or not and nothing bad will come of it Some days you’ll shower, other days you’ll smell like an orangutan, picking fleas off your head.point 272 |
Some days you’ll feel blessed, other days you’ll hate yourself for struggling because all you wanted was a baby.point 106 | But both are okay, neither makes you a bad mother.point 147 | ”point 150 | 1
“Getting a babysitter, sleeping, passing your baby over to your partner like a football, or putting the baby down in her bed nice and safe while you take a minute – is ok.point 407 |
Your mental health matters.point 24 | Your self-care is still important.point 54 | You’re still a person.point 79 | You don’t have to exhaust yourself to be a good mother.point 130 | You don’t have to lose yourself.point 163 | No one is cleaning their house every day.point 197 | No one is having s** every day.point 222 |
No one has it all together.point 22 | We are ALL losing our s t.point 42 | Even Becky with the good hair.point 67 | point 67 | 1
“I’ve had a c section that was hard work, a vaginal birth that was hard work. I’ve formula fed, breastfed, donor fed my babies – all of its hard work. All of it amazing, and yet my kids still swear at the wrong time and throw tantrums and eat off the floor. All 3. Don’t beat yourself up. I’ve never fought more with my husband than ever. Two ships sailing in the night. But you meet again, I promise.”
“So I don’t know how I do it with 3, and I don’t know how you do it with 1, but the fact is, we ARE doing it and doing it well.point 220 |
You’re amazing.point 20 | Through the tears, the shitty nappies, the first steps, you’re amazing.point 87 | Don’t ever second guess it because those little turds, they never do.point 151 | To them, you are wonderful.point 174 | To them, you are everything.point 198 | ”point 201 | 1
“I wrote the post because someone had messaged me with something nasty, responding to a post I wrote about depression,” Laura told Bored Panda. “She then apologized after telling me she had a bad day. After talking to her I realized she was a first time mom with depression and was beating herself up so I kinda wrote it for her.”
“She reminded me of those early days and I think so many first time moms, and just moms in general, need to hear that’s it’s ok and that they are doing an amazing job.”
“Sometimes, I just write what flies off the tongue (or the fingers?) and I thought, ‘well if she sees it then that’s all that matters.’ I didn’t expect it to resonate with a lot of moms,” she explained.
“But for me, it’s nice to have solidarity.”
Here’s what people had to say about the heartfelt post
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