A mother has shamed her daughter and accused her of being selfish after she refused to hold a memorial for her late sibling on her wedding day.

As the anonymous mom revealed in her Reddit post, her eldest child, Brooke, died two decades ago. Until now, however, she wants her to be remembered during all family events including her other daughter’s wedding.

“I will never let my daughter be forgotten. I bring pictures of her to events such as holiday celebrations and birthdays. I talk about her all the time. Every year on my living children’s birthdays, I think of her and how her once younger siblings are now older than her,” she said.

Convinced that her daughter should hold a memorial for Brooke at her wedding, the mother confronted the bride-to-be and accused her of being selfish after she said she wanted her wedding day to be about her and her only.

“My daughter, Marnie, is getting married next month. I asked her if she was having a memorial table and she said no. I asked her about creating a seat for her sister who passed, as she should be a part of the day. Marnie told me no, for once she wants a day about her,” the woman explained.

“She says she couldn’t have one event that wasn’t about Brooke. Even her graduation, I had put a picture of her on the seat. She said I needed to stop making my grief ‘front stage.’”

She added: “I told her she was being incredibly selfish and until she goes through a loss like this, she’ll never understand. Marnie asked me if her kids would have to live under the shadow of Brooke too. I told her she should be ashamed and to get over herself. My son says I’m being terrible and I need to re-evaluate my life. Am I the a**hole?”

After asking Reddit for advice, people were quick to take Marnie’s side and slam the mother for making unreasonable demands and forcing her children to focus on grief in their special moments even after all those years.

“I cannot imagine your loss, but you’ve hurt your two living children by never allowing them to move on, and in your fear of having Brooke forgotten, you have ensured that they resent her memory,” someone wrote.

“I understand wanting to keep a loved one’s memory alive but there’s a time, place, and prioritization for it. It’s disrespectful to the living children to (for the lack of better word) obsess with someone who is no longer here,” another said.

“OP’s life revolves around the deceased daughter, so much so that it’s sickeningly offensive for op to put the other children second place.”

The third wrote: “Most bad parents only manage to sow discord between their living children. You’ve accomplished the rare feat of causing the living to resent the dead.

“If you do not believe in an afterlife, then it follows that none of what you are doing to remember Brooke is actually for Brooke, it’s for you. Stop being selfish.

“If you do believe in an afterlife, then surely you understand that Brooke doesn’t want a table at Marnie’s wedding, she wants a place in Marnie’s heart. That’s not going to happen until you stop turning all of your kids’ important life events into a decades-long memorial for Brooke.”

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