Watch the man found his partner and carer in his fiancée
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28-year-old Max Stainton was born with Cerebral Palsy which causes muscle weakness and tremors. Max uses an electric wheelchair and needs somebody to help him with everything.
Max has now found his partner and carer in his fiancée Candy Parfitt who is 29-years-old.
Max and Candy met three years ago when she became his PA at work and they instantly became friends.
The couple has recently moved into a new home in North London and will get married in September.
They both are happy together but they often face judgment from others. Candy says that at first her family was worried that she wouldn’t be able to fulfill her dreams because she would be spending her time caring for Max.
Candy told Barcroft TV: “But being his carer has allowed me to do lot of things that I never would have the opportunity to before and I don’t feel like it’s taking away from me.”
Max said that he didn’t want Candy to be his carer at first. He said: “At first we talked about whether or not it was right for her to help me as my girlfriend, but we quickly concluded it felt more natural than bringing a carer in.”
Max needs somebody to help him perform everyday tasks. He even needs help at his job. But, Candy is always by his side and helps him perform his daily tasks.
Max and Candy met when she became his PA at work and slowly, they fell in love with each other.
“It started out professional. Then I think the professionalism level just started to get lower and lower and the flirting would increase”, said Candy.
Max said: “At first, I didn’t want Candy to care for me. You can’t just assume that someone is comfortable with doing all that right from the get-go.”
Candy added: “Except I was. I was never like, ‘I don’t know if I can do this,’ it was just more about, ‘How do I do this?’”
Candy even supported Max to become the first disabled person to reach Mount Everest Base Camp on horseback in April 2018.
The couple often faces judgment from others. Candy told that she was once asked by a man if Max was paying her to be his girlfriend?
“It was one of those things where you know that someone has said something mean and then you don’t think of a comeback in time. I think there is that obstacle of actually having to say, ‘No, this is a relationship.’”
But, these judgments don’t affect them anymore as they are happy together and love each other’s company.
Max said: “I think the best thing is that we have fun together. We’re always laughing and being happy and listening to music that we love and making jokes that we find funny and watching silly YouTube videos and just being all nice and cozy together.”