Back in 2015, a beautiful woman named Michelle went on a date with a man she met on the popular dating app, Tinder.
Michelle and the single dad started their night with a few drinks at a local pub before enjoying a pleasant dinner. Things were going well, she thought.
As the night came to a close, the two walked with arms linked to the train station. They finally parted ways, but not before sharing an adorable kiss.
Michelle left feeling great about the night, looking forward to the next date with this charming man.
But the text she received from him the next day completely changed her feelings for him.
The text began: “Thanks for a wonderful evening last night, I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you.”
Great news, right? He seemed to be a super sweet guy! But the message went on….
“You’re cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won’t.”
Wait, what?
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The rest of what he said was so offensive that Michelle decided to post the entire message on the Internet, including her response. The post went viral, and Michelle’s amazing words became an inspiration to women everywhere.
The blog post, entitled “Tinder Date,” tells the rest of the story:
“The next day, I received the following message from him (be warned, it gets pretty nasty).
Hey Michelle, sorry been super busy at work today hun.
Thanks for a wonderful evening last night. I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. You’re cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won’t.
I’m not going to bull***t you… I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you’re the prettiest looking girl I’ve ever met. But my mind gets turned on by someone slimmer.”
“Shallow? It’s not meant to be. It’s the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image, or listen to a piece of music you love, it has that instant reaction in you that makes you crave more.
So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God…I really, really am), I can’t say the same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don’t want that to happen baby. I don’t want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I’m not hard.
There are certain triggers that fire my imagination into life and your wit and intelligence are the beginning of that process which would inevitably end up in the bedroom. With just one result….
I’m so disappointed in myself Michelle because I’ve genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I’m trying to be honest with you without sounding like a total knobhead.
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We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and…. f*** me… I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m trying to avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don’t have to go through that embarrassment. I’m a man… With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man and I’m sure of my own body and its needs.
Please try and forgive me. I adore you xx.”
“It’s taken me a few days to sit down and respond. I’ve been busy.
Dear Man I Met On Tinder.
I was on another date when I received your message. He returned from the loo to find me in a flood of tears. He was lovely, but baffled, and hasn’t been in touch since, funnily enough.
You don’t have to fancy me. We all have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think “you’re lovely, but you just don’t tickle my pickle”. We wish we were attracted to them, but our bodies and our brains don’t work like that. And that’s fine.
What isn’t fine is the fact that, after a few hours in my company, you took the time to write this utterly uncalled-for message. It’s nothing short of sadistic. Your tone is saccharine and condescending, but the forensic detail in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only possible objective for writing it is to wound me.
And I’m ashamed to say, for a few moments, it worked. You stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has – that it doesn’t matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant – if you’re a stone overweight, no one will ever find you desirable.
I like the way I look. I don’t look like Charlize Theron, and that’s fine – I look like me, and I like myself (I’m sure I’d like Charlize Theron, too if I ever met her. I hear good things).
You may think are all my profile pictures are “FGASs” (That’s Fat Girl Angle Shots – pictures from angles that slim and flatter the girl.point 313 |
Because men only ever use candid, brutally-lit, unfiltered pics).point 57 | But I think they’re a fair representation.point 99 | And I’m pretty upfront about who I am: I describe myself as a woman who loves pizza, and include links to myInstagram page, where I have the #everybodysready bikini shots I took on my 30th birthday.point 284 |
I like to think I come across as a confident, happy woman.point 47 | But could this be the very reason you have targeted me? Did you see me and think “She has far too high an opinion of herself, she needs bringing down a peg or two”? I have to ask – we all know the internet is a dangerous place to be a woman with opinions (I discovered this first hand when I ventured a response to those obnoxious bloody adverts).point 336 |
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I showed your message to friends who expressed shock, horror, embarrassment on your behalf, and a desire to cause you actual physical harm.point 117 | One male friend told me I have a lovely bottom “if unmarriageable”.point 177 | I laughed with them.point 194 | Then I cried in my Slimming World group.point 227 |
That’s right! Slimming World! You see, I already KNOW that I’m overweight.point 75 | I can tell you exactly how overweight I am – 20 pounds.point 121 | I’ve already lost 15, and I’ve a stone and a half to go.point 177 | I’m happy with that.point 200 | I will get rid of it, safely and healthily.point 235 |
Does that mean that I can’t love and enjoy my body now? F*** no.point 57 | point 57 | 1
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I’ll never see or hear from you again (you may feel the need to respond to this blog. Please don’t. There’s nothing you can say that will make me think that you’re not a disgrace to your gender).
What truly concerns me, the real reason I’m responding so publicly, is the fact that you have a 13 year old daughter. A talented illustrator, who collects Manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible.
I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push her to push herself and to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I’ll be kind. I’ll say “if”.) the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now.
Simon.
Kiss.
My.
Exquisitely.
Unmarriagable.
Arse.
P.S. “Slip of a girl”? CHRIST ALIVE, that’s creepy.
P.P.S. You’re not 5’11.”
What do you think of the single father? Was he out of line or was he right in being honest with Michelle?
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