Most couples want their family and close friends to witness the moment they exchange their vows but one bride has revealed how she kicked her husband’s entire family out of their big day.
In a post on Reddit, the woman explained that her husband’s family have wedding traditions that do not go well with most Western weddings, including having guests wear white, making a homemade ‘sheet cake’ instead of tiered cake, and letting the children walk down the aisle with the bride.
“Ben’s family has lots of odd traditions that they do, and over the years I’ve put up with them and embraced them,” she wrote.
“However, I wanted my wedding day to be good for both of us, so we made some compromises,” she went on.
“We could have the homemade sheet cake, but we both had to agree on the flavor and design. Anyone could wear what they wanted (besides white), and there would be no children at the wedding. We talked to both of our families, and everyone agreed that these rules and boundaries were fine, or so we thought.”
On their wedding day, the family of the bride were ‘dressed appropriately’ but the groom’s family wore white and brought all of their children.
“Apparently, their traditions were more important than what I had to say.point 296 |
Only three people actually respected the rules set in place – the spouses of Ben’s siblings.point 89 | Ben and I were mortified.point 110 | We immediately kicked them out and allowed the three people who followed the rules to stay, but they left with their partners (which we didn’t mind),” the furious bride continued.point 268 | 1
While their wedding went on, she said that it felt ‘ruined.’
“We ended up cancelling the post-wedding celebration after some of his family members snuck inside. After we came back from our honeymoon, we were both berated by his family members and basically ‘shunned’ by his family. I feel guilty for not allowing them to practice their traditions,” she added.
Reddit users were quick to share their thoughts on the matter, with one person writing: “You and your husband reached a compromise and all parties needed to respect the boundaries you set. It’s a wedding, not a birthday party. God bless you for agreeing to the cake.”
Another said: “It is your wedding and your rules. They could ask to include them but should abide by the decision of the bride and groom.”
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