A man has asked for advice while contemplating a divorce from his wife who lost her leg in an accident.
The man in question spoke to best-selling author Jane Green as he revealed his wife was left without one leg following a car crash that left her with horrible injuries several years ago.
Ever since the incident, the woman has adapted to the “new normal” and worked hard on her recovery. The changes, however, also left an impact on her husband who now no longer sees his wife as anything more than her friend after becoming her full-time carer.
“But while all of that has been going on, our relationship has completely changed. I went from concerned husband to full-time carer and now it feels almost like we’re just roommates?” he explained.
“She is still struggling to sleep so she has her own room downstairs, while I’m still in what was our bedroom upstairs. I work at an office every day and by the time I get home, she’s usually so exhausted that she goes to bed an hour or so after I walk in the door.”
The man went on to admit that the pair hasn’t been intimate ever since the accident and that his wife doesn’t seem to have any interest left in the “passionate” side of their relationship.
“I love my wife, but I can’t help but think we’d both be happier if we just ended this marriage. There’s no bitterness or anything on my part, but I also don’t want to spend the rest of my life tied up in a platonic relationship that has no fire or excitement,” the concerned husband continued.
Concluding his letter, the man asked if he was an a**hole for thinking about leaving his wife because he believed they would both be happier on their own.
Responding to the man, Green suggested he wasn’t necessarily a bad person for feeling he wanted to leave the marriage because there was no love left between them. She did, however, suggest he was in the wrong for considering a divorce before talking to his wife about his feelings.
“You would only be the worst person in the world if you divorced her and hadn’t sat her down, preferably with a therapist or counselor, and had some meaningful conversations about your marriage and what you both want out of your future,” she said.
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