A man has sought advice on the internet after his angry wife confronted him over a photo of his ex that he keeps in his home office.
As the 42-year-old man in question explained in his viral Reddit post, his former fiancée died tragically years ago after she contracted bacterial meningitis.
Despite losing the one he was set to marry several years ago, the man has kept a group shot featuring his friends and his ex on a wall at his home even after marrying his current partner.
While the woman remained silent about the photo for some time, she recently confronted her man about it and demanded he remove it from his home office because she thinks it was disrespectful to her.
“The girl I was going to marry is wearing a bikini bottom and a sports bra. She is wearing more than the rest of us. My wife hates this picture because it has Trina in it. She wants me to take it down and put it in an album or something. I do not own a photo album. I’m not taking down my picture in my office,” the man wrote.
He added that the photo featuring his late fiancée is just one of many pictures he had framed and put up on the wall in his office. He also insisted that he was not “hung up” on his ex even though he was devastated when he lost her all those years ago.
After asking Reddit for advice, plenty of viewers weighed in on the matter, and the opinions were divided.
“I do not understand this mentality of being threatened by someone who has passed. If she didn’t know you were thinking of marrying this woman (at that time), she wouldn’t have an issue with it,” someone said.
“It’s very clearly just a memory of your friends and yes an ex, but considering how long has passed and the fact that she’s passed, you should have the right to keep it up,” another added.
Not everyone, however, agreed that the wife was in the wrong for feeling threatened by the photo.
“She’s insecure about her own reality. She may be inappropriately focusing her insecurity on the picture. She may need conversation about her vulnerability, compliments, reassurance, romance. She may need you to listen to her and empathize,” someone urged the poster.
“The way forward is to acknowledge and care for her feelings and to be a present partner and love her for who she is. And to gently share with her why you love that picture and assure her that your memory isn’t a threat to your happiness together. No judgement. You’ve gotta talk to her.”
Another advised: “I would caution you to be kind here. Her feelings are valid even if her actions are not. What your wife sees is the girl you would have married if she was still alive, which you freely admit. I would suggest getting your wife into therapy.”
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